Nella Coiro

The Buddha said, “Let that sh*t go.”

 I thought it would be fun to write this week’s blog with some humor and banter, so here goes! 

Are you having trouble letting things go? I totally get it! When we are offended or we feel that we been treated unjustly, our first impulse is the desire to retaliate. If  we don’t get a grip on this impulse, we are essentially “cutting off our nose to spite our face. “ In other words, we are so obsessed with vengeance that we don’t care about  negative consequences. Not smart!

Let’s be honest: contrary to what we would like to believe, none of us are saints!  And, the last thing we want to hear is “simply let it go.” - Come on! Seriously? 

Often,  our  innate reaction is the desire for malicious glee.   We want to feel the satisfaction of watching the offender feel the same pain which they caused us.  We believe this will sooth our pain. And, although it might provide some temporary emotional first-aid,  in the long run, it can backfire like a cannon stuffed with cement.

The old cliche’, “The best revenge is to live a happy life”might sound good on paper, but when we want instant relief. The time it takes to “life the happy life” will require a level of patience that we don’t have when we feel deeply offended and hurt.

Harboring a resentment or plotting revenge won’t help us to feel better either. First of all, it requires a lot of energy.  Why waste it on B.S.? 

Okay, then what’s the solution?  Hmm...

Get to a point where you don’t give a hoot. Become Teflon.  Yes, I said Teflon. Don’t allow the words and actions of others to “stick” to you.

In 12-step programs, the mantra is, “How important is it?” And, if you’re making it important, that’s on you! 

The Serenity Prayer summarizes “letting that sh*t  go” nicely. Here goes… hope you don’t mind my commentary, LOL.

“God, grant me the serenity to except the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” 

In other words, God, please help me to exercise restraint, chill-out, and not bombard my offender’s house with eggs. Give me the courage to become Teflon and learn how not to give a hoot. Help me to discern what I can and cannot do, in terms of  my own best interest. - i.e. avoiding life’s karmic boomerangs!

Eleanor Roosevelt said that no one can make us feel inferior without our consent. So, if you are giving the offender the power to control your mood, feelings, or (God forbid) actions, guess whose fault that is? 

Get a grip! Count to 100, take a few deep breaths, and ask yourself this question: “How important is their opinion, really?“ 

And so, once again, The Buddha has given us a learning moment… “Let that sh*t go.”


(I hope you enjoyed my tongue-in-cheek blog about letting go. I enjoyed writing it!)


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