Nella Coiro

Author, Forgiveness Coach & Online Instructor

What Advice Would You Give Your Younger Self?

Hi everyone, this week I was planning to write about a different topic, and while reading another blog, this question caught my attention.

If you could go back in time, what advice would you give your younger self?

Wow, what a powerful question! I pondered upon this for a couple of days and jotted down some advice to my younger self. Here goes...

1.    Try to cultivate a mindset of forgiveness. Forgive yourself and others.

2.    Every person that you choose not to forgive will hurt you, not that person.

3.    Let go of the past. You can’t change it and it no longer serves you.

4.    Those things that you wanted to say, but did not say, will haunt you the most.

5.    You cannot fill a void or emptiness within you with something outside of you.

6.    You are here for a reason.

7.    Pray more, analyze less. 

8.    Laugh more, worry less.

9.    People make mistakes, and this doesn’t necessarily make them a bad person.

10.    Treat yourself with the same kindness that you would treat other people.

11.    Don’t take things too seriously. Sometimes it’s not about you.

12.    Be grateful.

13.    The older you get, the faster time seems to pass.

14.    Enjoy the moment.

15.    You cannot control anyone or anything except for your own attitude.

16.    During times of great pain, remind yourself that this too shall pass.

17.    Don’t sweat the small things. In hindsight, most things are small things.

18.    Try to have patience. Anything of value takes time.

19.    Don’t let anyone tell you your dreams are out of reach. 

20.    You are good enough.

21.    Find the learning opportunities in all situations 

22.    When one door closes, look for the next open door 

23.     I can’t is self defeating. In reality, you won’t know unless you try.

24.    Walk through and past your fears

25.    Celebrate your victories in life - 
even the small ones.

26.    Learn to see yourself through the eyes of those who love you.

27.    Karma is a boomerang. What goes around comes around.

28.    Try to learn from the mistakes of others 

29.    Life doesn’t have to be a battle.

30.    Try not to obsess about the past or worry about the future.

31.    Be honest with yourself.

32.    Accept that often there are no answers and we must live the questions.

33.    Don’t be afraid to tell someone that you love them.

34.     Appreciate the uniqueness of others.

35.    Don’t live your life to make other people happy.

36.    Our greatest strength is often a byproduct of adversity.

37.    Nurture your mind, body and spirit.

38.    Take care of your body and health. Your older self will thank you.

39.    Don’t give up a minute before the miracle happens.

40.    Never give up hope.

Actually, my younger self, I cannot tell you anything, because we live life moving forward yet we learn in hindsight.  Hopefully, dear younger self, you will learn through your experiences and to be open enough to learn from your mistakes. 

Finally, remind yourself that your life journey, with all of its challenges, adversity, heartache , joyful moments, adventures and triumphs, will make you the person you were meant to be. 

What advice would you give your younger self?  I welcome your comments. 


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Hi Nella. I really like your blog, especially this one about what we would tell our younger self. I can relate to so much on your list, especially about how we fuss over small things and when we look back, we see that we became upset about stuff that was not very important. I think as we get older, we realized a lot. Thanks.:)






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